7 Things 2017 Taught Me
Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others. –Jonathon Swift
Hi guys! Welcome back 🙂 I hope you’ve all had an AMAZING holiday season and brought in an exciting New Year! The last few months I took a little time off to reevaluate and reaccess which has been extremely incremental for finding clarity. With that being said, 2017 was a HUGE year of growth for me so I thought it’d be cool to start 2018 noting all the blessings I’ve learned in 2017. If you find yourself relating, leave a message in the comments or shoot me an email. There’s seriously nothing better than hearing from you guys.
Anywho, let’s get to it:
- YOU HAVE TO CHANGE IN ORDER TO GROW
Life is about losing. In order to be something different than you are today, you have to change. It could be changing old habits, deciding to not go out on weekends to achieve ____ goal, losing someone to grow into who you need to be, losing the twinkies to get to your desired weight, etc.. You get where I’m going. Point blank, in order to be something else somewhere else has to give. A caterpillar doesn’t become a butterfly by doing the same old things he did when he was still a caterpillar. You feel me?
- DON’T OVERLOOK YOUR INSTINCTS
Your heart doesn’t lie to you. Ahhh, this is like my life mantra and has legitimately been a pinned tweet on my Twitter for like years. This, in my opinion, is without a doubt the way God/our Creator/Universe/Higher Power (whatever you believe) speaks to us. It’s our decision whether or not we will listen to it or not. Even at high stress moments of life, we somehow always know deep down what we should really do. It’s like when you toss a coin in the air to make a decision and you know deep down what you wanted it to land on. My best advice is, don’t make it complicated. For any pressing matter, listen to your heart and trust your gut. Sometimes it’s scary (actually it’s almost alwaaaays completely terrifying) but it’s always the right thing to do.
- TAKE THE FEAR OUT
With adulting comes decision making (ugh, I know right). This was something I wanted to get better at in the beginning of 2017 and learned that for those big, scary decisions–take the fear out to know what you should do. This point has a little somethin’ somethin’ to do with the first two points but has completely changed the way I now make decisions. When I get confused and I’m not sure what to do, I take the scary-negative parts out, think best case scenario, decide on what I’m going to do, and promise myself I’m not going to think “what-if” or anything other than what I’ve decided on.
4. “DON’T TAKE ADVICE–THAT WAS GREAT ADVICE.”- DRAKE
Do what makes YOU happy, no matter how crazy it sounds to other people. This year taught me to listen, be open-minded, but in the end–still, go with my gut. No one knows what’s good for you like you know what’s good for you. Sure, listen to other people’s opinions and be respectful, but don’t let others make your decisions for you—that was a hard lesson learned.
5. YOUR CRITICS DON’T COUNT
Lots of times we don’t go after what we want because of fear of what others will say or think. It is extremely important to know that these opinions never count. This year I put lots of my ideas out into the world with some thought of what others might think, I tried new business ventures wondering what others would think or if I failed—how would people react but honestly, the lesson here is, no matter what you’re trying to do, other people’s opinions of what you’re doing never matter. Those things I tried helped me find more clarity, helped me to meet personal goals and taught me so much about business and more importantly myself. We are here to live up to our full potential, find our purpose, and serve a mighty God. We are not here to please the people. Do what your heart feels and follow your purpose regardless of what anyone may say. It all fades.
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10
But just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts. 1 Thessalonians 2:4
6. JUMP THEN FALL
Don’t be afraid. Jump in head first and figure it out as you go. When there’s an option to sink or swim, most of us would definitely choose to swim. It’s crazy what you can do when you test yourself.
7. FIND THE BEAUTY IN EVERYTHING
Life is hard, it will always have its moments. But we have a choice to either see the gold or think that life is out to get us. This year I got really into scripture, meditation, and growing my spirituality and it really woke me up in terms of how temporary everything we face day to day is. I have a completely different perspective of the world, life, and people than I did this time last year. Multiple times throughout the day, I take a few moments to appreciate whatever it is I’m experiencing—like the drive to work, all of my friends and I laughing together, time spent with my family, the seasons, the conversation I’m having with a sweet colleague, the sip of tea, etc.. It’s really woken me up to appreciate how beautiful life really is and that whatever you’re experiencing now, won’t be like this for long. I know that sounds kind’ve deep, but like… seriously try it.
LAST ONE, BEST ONE: THE JOURNEY IS EVERYTHING
With “new” years, people typically create new goals. Mine has been the same since I figured out what exactly it is that I wanted to do. I just try to take them a couple steps further with each quarter/year/etc.. Instead of charging at them full force, this year I learned to just enjoy the process. There are still so many lessons learned and so many phases I have to go through before I can even handle where I’m going, so for now, I know as long as I’m working towards these the things I want from life actively–I’m right where I need to be.
Anything that annoys you is teaching you patience. Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet. Anything that angers you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion. Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back. Anything that you hate is teaching you unconditional love. Anything that you fear is teaching you courage to overcome your fear. Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go. –Jackson Kiddard
Personally, 2017 has been a year of growth. I made big moves, I lost people dear to my heart, I grew up and I became a woman. But most of all–I found my purpose and who I was. A very rough season, but one I desperately needed. I look forward to all that’s to come.
2018, let’s do this. Cheers!