To be thankful is to acquire a great appreciation or gratitude for a person, an experience, a place we are at in life or an appreciation for a material we possess. But have you ever noticed that we are commonly thankful when something good has happened to us? We never really see someone saying, “Wow, I’m so glad that awful experience happened to me!”
But the “awful experiences” are actually the encounters we’ve faced in life that have upheld the greatest impact on the people we’ve become.
Out of personal experience, I am actually more thankful for the bad experiences I’ve undergone than the “good” things that have happened to me. It’s crazy because I don’t even really remember the good things I’ve been really thankful for. Is that bad? Maybe it was that caramel macchiato the lady in front of me at Starbucks bought for me in the drive thru…Idk.
One “bad” experience was when I first moved from New Orleans to Mississippi. As a 13 year old girl, I thought this was the end of the world #dramatic. But really, at the time-it seemed like it was. My mom said she’d come back in a week (fast forward 10 years-hey, what’s up, hello), I had to leave my brother and sister, the fact that I was moving with grandparents I wasn’t super close with at the time, oh and had to resign as captain of middle school cheer and miss the 8th grade dance and picnic…. L O L priorities right?
In hindsight, this was one of my greatest blessings.
There’s some saying that says, “there is a light in every darkness and a way in every struggle” or something along those lines and I’m telling you it couldn’t be more true.
Now that I’m older, I am so grateful for that experience. All of it sucked at the time of course, but I know I personally wouldn’t be the person I am if I didn’t move from da hood.
Secondly, my grandparents are the literal light of my life and I would never have been this close with them if I had not moved #extrathankful.
I’ve learned that when a new problem or situation is created…it’s probably for the better. There’s a reason for it/behind it. Don’t get me wrong, it sucks when it’s happening but you gotta trust the process.
Think about the shitty relationships you’ve left in the past and how at the time you thought it was the end of the universe. Months and/or years later you’re probably like, “K….wtf what I actually thinking? That person was so wrong for me, etc..” I can bet you’ve grown into a stronger woman/person with more of an idea of what you want from the next guy you date too. Just saying.
Seriously though, growing pains will always suck- but it’s important to keep a positive spirit and understanding that something beautiful is going to happen out of it-and there’s a 100% chance that it’s going to be a better version of you.
In order to move on from those experiences you have to forgive the people you may have resentment towards, analyze what you’ve learned from the situation, then let it go.
You can’t move forward in life if past BS keeps holding you down. I read something somewhere once that said:
“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
Everything really happens for a reason. Accepting it and staying positive through the BS will make you better.. and happier!
With that being said, to past BS and future BS to come..Cheers! #ImThankful
If there have been bad experiences you’ve gone through that shaped you into the BA person you are today, please reply in comments below.
As always, thanks for reading. 🙂