The reason for this post is a few weeks ago, I overheard a depressing conversation between a group of people at a trail/park in Dallas talking about different situations that were preventing them from being happy. One person said money issues, another said family, their job, student loans, not having the type of car they wanted, not being able to buy the dress in the window in Victory Park… the list literally went on forever. Everyone in the group notioned that they “would be happy when (insert desire here)”.
At first, I agreed. I have bills, student loans, my family isn’t perfect, I’m not exactly where I want to be in my career, my mind rambled. Thinking of all those things gave me a weird sick feeling and I felt like my energy and state of mind had taken a complete U-turn. Then I sat there and thought about what “happiness” actually is.
If you would have asked me five years ago or even 5 months ago what I wanted from life, I probably would have said that I wanted a nice vehicle (Mercedes G Wagon to be specific), an apartment downtown with exposed brick & stainless steel appliances, and a reallllllyy nice corporate job making enough money to afford all the shoes my heart could desire…
Fast forward 5 years to the present and if asked of my one wish from life, it wouldn’t be anything I could purchase. I could describe it in one word: happiness. Happiness is the feeling of showing joy or contentment and is subjective to the individual. To be happy can mean a lot of different things depending on what that individual holds valuable. Happiness is not something to be bought or to have possession of. Happiness is not an object. It’s not about the material possessions you have attained but the memories and experiences you share with the people you care about most.
In my own definition, happiness and the longevity of the emotion, is being grateful for everything you have in your life. There is no need or want for anything else because you are content with what you have. If you have the basics, everything else is just extra sprinkles on top 🙂
Instead of focusing on what we don’t have or aspects of a situation we don’t like-I think it’s important to direct that energy and attention to the things we do have and what we do like. If there’s a situation in life that is intolerable, change it. Nothing in this life is permanent. The amazing thing about life is that we are 100% in control of what our destiny holds and how happy we choose to be. It’s okay to not be where you want to be, but don’t get distracted by the discontent of what you don’t like about certain life hindering situations so often that you forget where you are at now, where you’re going and the people who are there along the way to help you get by. Time passes, it’s inevitable. There will always be circumstances in our lives that aren’t the most pleasurable, that’s when your gratitude and personal values come into play.
Literally everything in life is so beautiful, especially the struggle. Side note: Think about college, the strugg was extra real, but it was the greatest time of most of our lives.
My point in writing this, is that the time for happiness is now. Don’t think after you get to Point B and have all this other stuff in between accomplished that that is when you’ll be happier.
Regardless of what cards life has dealt, it’s so important to be thankful for what you already have, the places you’ve traveled, the things you’ve experienced and most of all the people you’ve laughed with along the way.
Exhale. I’m officially done ranting.